I-Soul Ties: Ukuvula ikusasa ngokuxhumeka kwaphezulu
Ibhayibheli likhuluma ngathi mayelana nobudlelwano bomphefumlo encwadini kaMathewu, lapho lithi, "Ngenxa yalokhu indoda iyoshiya uyise nonina futhi ihlanganiswe nomkakhe, futhi bayoba nyamanye" (uMathewu 19: 5) . Inhloso esemqoka yokuthathwa komphefumulo ukwakha isibopho somshado esiqinile. Lapho kudalwa umuntu, wenziwa njengomuntu ophelele, okusho ukuthi wayengadingi omunye umuntu ukuba aphelele. Kodwa-ke, uNkulunkulu wabona ukuthi umuntu wayenesizungu ngoba akazange akwazi ukuxhumana naye ngendlela uNkulunkulu ayehlose ngayo.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi uNkulunkulu ungumuntu owayengumuntu, kwathi lapho edala umuntu, wamnika namandla akhe okuba yi-Trive, akwazi ukuxhumana naye. IBhayibheli lithi, "Masenze umuntu ngomfanekiso wethu" (UGenesise 1:26), okukhombisa ukuthi uNkulunkulu wayexhumana ngaphakathi kuye - uYise, iNdodana noMoya oNgcwele. Inhloso kaNkulunkulu kwakungenxa yokuthi sibe yinxantathu futhi, kepha u-Adamu akakwazanga ukufinyelela leyongxenye yohlobo lwakhe oluzomvumela ukuba akhulume ngezinga noma indawo uNkulunkulu axhumana ngayo, ngakho-ke waba nesizungu lapho adalulwa khona.
Ukubhekana nalokhu, uNkulunkulu wenza ukuba u-Adamu alale futhi akhipha leyo ngxenye yaYe ukuthi wayefuna u-Adamu ukuxhumana nabantu ngaphakathi. Wabe esedala u-Eva. Lapho u-Eva edalwa, empeleni wayeyingxenye ka-Adamu eyakhishwa kuye, yingakho amadoda evame ukuzizwa ephila ngokwengeziwe lapho engena ebudlelwaneni. Lokhu kuboniswa esitatimendeni, "akukuhle ukuthi umuntu abe yedwa; Ngizomenza umsizi ofanele kuye" (UGenesisi 2:18).
Ngakho-ke, ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu akaphelele uma engashadile? Ngomqondo othile, yebo, ngoba umshado uhloselwe ukuletha ukuphelela. Abantu abaningi abaqondi ngokuphelele ubuhlobo bomphefumlo kanye nomthelela omkhulu abangaba nawo empilweni yomuntu. Izandla zomphefumulo azigcini emshadweni; Zingadalelwa futhi ngaphandle komshado. Kodwa-ke, indawo lapho izibopho zomphefumulo zinomphumela oqinile futhi kufanele zibonise khona iningi lisemshadweni. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi, emshadweni, inhloso yomphefumlo uthayi ukuletha ukuqeda nokuphelela ukuze umuntu akwazi ukusebenza ngokuphelele ekubizeni kwawo.
Kepha kuthiwani ngabantu abangashadile? Bahamba kanjani nasekupheleleni, umuntu angazibuza. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi njengoba sikhula, abazali bethu, abangane kanye nabantu esixhumana nabo ngeqhaza ekufezeni uhlobo oluthile lokuphothulwa noma ukuphelela ezimpilweni zethu. Isibonelo, abafana ababili abancane bangakhula ndawonye, bahlanganyele amaphupho nezifiso eziya lapho bobabili bephishekela khona umsebenzi ofanayo. Yize babengabangani nje, isibopho sabo saba namandla kangangokuba izinqumo abazenza kamuva empilweni, noma ngabe zingasasebenzi, zithonywa ubungani elake baba nazo.
Ubungani bungadala izibopho ezinamandla kangangokuba babumba isiphetho somuntu futhi banikela ekuqedeni komuntu noma ekupheleleni komuntu. Kungaleso sizathu-ke kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi izingane zakho zisebenzelana nobani. Isibonelo, uDavide akufanele abe yinkosi ngoba wayengeyena oyindlalifa kaSawule, kepha ngenxa yobuhlobo bakhe obuqinile noJonathani, waba yindlalifa. UJonathani wathi kuDavide: "Unjengami, mfowethu," futhi benza isivumelwano (1 Samuweli 18: 3). Ngalesi sivumelwano, uDavide wangena endaweni egunyeni ayengakwazi ukufinyelela ngaphambi kwangaphambili, yize ayegcotshwa ngaleso sikhundla.
Akukona nje nge-Soul Tie kodwa kunalokho isibopho esivula izici ezithile zempilo yakho. Lapho umyeni eshiya uyise nonina futhi ahlanganisa umkakhe, ukuxhumana abakwenzayo ngobuhlobo babo kusebenza njengesibuko. Kubonisa izici zokuthi babuyela kubani komunye nomunye. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuxhunywa kumuntu ofanele. Uma ushade nomuntu ongafanele, bazokhombisa izinto ezingalungile babuyela kuwe, okuholela empilweni yokukhungatheka. Yingakho i-Bhayibheli lixwayisa, "Ungabi jwayela ngokungalingani" (2 KwabaseKhorinte 6:14), okusho ukuthi ungaxhumana nomuntu ongahlanganyeli naye esiphethweni esifanayo, futhi ngenxa yalokho, babonisa izinto ezingezinhle zenu Impilo.
Lesi simiso sifinyelela ngaphandle komshado ebunganeni futhi. Cabanga ngobudlelwano phakathi kukaDavide noJonathani. UDavida waba yinkosi yakwa-Israyeli, hhayi ngoba egcotshwe, kodwa ngenxa yesibopho sakhe noJonathani. UJonathan wayeyindlalifa esihlalweni sobukhosi, nokho wabona ukubizwa kukaNkulunkulu ngokuphila kukaDavide (1 Samuweli 18: 3). Ngaphandle kwalokhu kuxhumana, bekungaba nzima kakhulu kuDavide ukukhuphukela esihlalweni sobukhosi, yize ayegcotshwe. UNkulunkulu wayesehlelile uSawule inkosi yakwa-Israyeli, futhi leso sikhundla sasibhekiselwe kuBaba siye eNdodaneni, njengoba kwakuyinkosi efanelekile. Kodwa-ke, ngobuhlobo babo obuqinile, uJonathani wadlulisela lokho okwamnikeze koyise kuDavide.
Ubudlelwano bunamandla okusiphelisa futhi babumbe isiphetho sethu. Lokhu kuphakamisa umbuzo obalulekile: Uxhumene nobani, futhi yini ababonisa yona? Abantu oxhumana nabo badlala indima enkulu ekutholeni lapho uya khona empilweni. Uxhumeke kubani?
